A wise
man once told me that when I find myself around single women, especially when I
find them attractive or interesting, I should mention my wife and family early
in the conversation. I have found this advice to be very useful on many
occasions.
Dear
husbands, heed to this useful advice, whenever you find yourself around single women, especially when you find them attractive or interesting, you should always mention 'your wife' and family early
in the conversation. We have found the above advice and the other tips at the bottom to be
essential in keeping most especially young marriages healthy and strong.
If you want your marriages to be and remain strong
and healthy which is in fact one of your biggest
responsibilities in your marriage, continue after the cut
Now, let’s dig deeper. Where are some common places where you
might run into this scenario? For many of you, it could easily happen at work.
You could be starting a new job and find yourself around a lot of nice, new
women. When this happens, you have to make the choice
to embrace their attention or extinguish it in a friendly way by mentioning
your beautiful wife and family.
For some of you, you have been
working around the same women for some time. You might have had the choice
many times to engage in flirty conversation or go out with co-workers
after work. If this is you and your wife is at home waiting for
you, then it’s time to step back and assess your position as the husband
and leader. Take the necessary steps to make your relationship with
your wife the most important one again and don’t forget it. Lead gentlemen,
lead!
Even
though those were just a couple quick examples, I know there are a few of
you out there that need to step up your role as a husband. Those examples
don’t apply to you? Then consider who you know and talk to at your
gym; the grocery store; the local hang out or wherever. These “simple”
places could produce difficult relationships that will harm your
relationship and love with your wife. Man up and do what needs to be
done for your marriage!
ATTENTION: Here Are 5 Things Every Married Man Should Do Around Single Women.
There
are very few exceptions for when that ring needs to be off. Operating
heavy machinery, swimming in shark infested waters, etc. If you
are about to enter a situation that makes you look at your ring and consider
if you need it on or not, LEAVE! RUN! GET AWAY FROM THERE! Seriously,
get out of that situation, your vows, marriage, children and more
depend on those important decisions. (Backup: Luke 16:10 ESV)
2. KEEP EYE CONTACT SIMPLE AND SHORT
Don’t
read this the wrong way; I’m not saying to be rude. I’m saying to be
careful where your eyes travel and how long they travel for when you are in
the presence of an attractive single women. You know that once you
engage in the first serious look you have signed the dotted line for more
eye trouble. Keep it short, keep it decisive and move on. Get back to that
image posted at your
desk. Go! (Backup: Matthew 5:28 KJV)
3. HANG UP PICTURES OF YOUR WIFE AT WORK
A
married man in this position would be wise to pick out a couple great and
fun photos of him and his wife and keep them displayed at his office or
place of work. Pick a time that was fun for two reasons: it will remind
you why you love her so much and it will make for a great conversation
tool when others, especially women, ask about it. Update the
image as needed to keep the people around you knowing your relationship
is continuing to grow. Get that picture up this week and extinguish
those flames. (Backup: Psalm 119:37 ESV)
4. KEEP CONVERSATION GENERAL & PROFESSIONAL
If you
work around single women, there is no question that conversation will
come up. It’s up to you on how you decide to speak with her. You can
choose to keep it short and general, you can choose to keep it professional
or you can choose to keep it off of those and allow it go places
it shouldn’t. Be polite, but very intentional in your conversations. If needed, again, always be ready to bring up something about
your wife or family. Pull the pin, aim and distinguish. Safety first.
(Backup: Romans 6:13 ESV)
5. TALK ABOUT YOUR WIFE &FAMILY OFTEN
Did I
mention anything about talking about your wife in conversation yet? I
believe I did, but this last point brings the idea to a firm home.
The single women you engage with each day, if you have to, should be no
match to your wife and family. Your family should be your first priority
wherever you are and with whomever you encounter each day. Yes, each
and every day. Keep it short, keep it simple and mention your beautiful
wife. Now pat yourself on the back and keep it up. (Backup: Ephesians
5:25-33 ESV)
NOTE: Your wife’s feelings are and will always be more important than
the woman you need to take these steps with. Get on it!
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