Being attractive to men is much more than having a pretty
face. Apparently, men are looking for more. To test this theory, we did a quick
survey, online and in personal interviews, asking men what they consider
attractive in women. Here are the six top characteristics that were mentioned —
one way or another — by nearly all who were surveyed. These traits are what
respondents found attractive in women:
1. Self-confident
She knows who she is. She doesn’t need anyone else to define
her. She’s content to be herself. She has values and standards and isn’t afraid
to stick by them. She’s not driven by every wind and wave of popular culture.
She’s grounded in knowing what she stands for and doesn’t apologize for it to
anyone. She has a strong faith in God. She’s not arrogant about it, just
quietly remains true to her beliefs and allows others to do the same. She is
more concerned about others, including her boyfriend, than herself. One man,
describing the woman he married, said, “Her moral ‘backbone’ and solid values
were a hit with me.” Being confident in who you are and having your values in
place can free you up to care about others.
2. Adventuresome and fun
She’s game for an adventure which makes her fun to be with.
She isn’t afraid to try new things, go new places and eat new foods. She
doesn’t hesitate to learn new things that we both find challenging and
interesting. For example, a pre-med student said of his fiancé, “She was even
willing to board a hot air balloon without knowing I was going to propose to
her in midair.” (Click here to see this romantic event.) Yes, men enjoy being
with women who are willing to try new adventures.
3. Feminine and pretty
She’s not obsessed over her looks. She fixes herself up to
look nice and is satisfied. When I’m with her I feel like a real man. She
doesn’t have a need to be masculine, though she is strong and extremely
capable. Her femininity complements my masculinity. She can look adorable in
five-inch heels one minute and equally charming in jogging shoes the next. She
can wear a dress with a swirly skirt as comfortably as she wears everyday
jeans. She’s not inclined to use gutter talk. She knows how to smile and uses
it often. She simply knows how to be a lady.
4. Smart
She has prepared herself intellectually — educated but not
boastful about it. When we can talk freely about what’s going on in the world,
with both of us being equally involved in the conversation, that’s a very good
thing. It’s not that she has to know about everything; it’s that she wants to
learn and finds learning rewarding. That’s attractive.
5. Approachable and
friendly
She gives me a glance when she sees me staring at her,
encouraging me with a slight flirtatious look. One man who fell
hook-line-and-sinker said, “Her down-to-earth personality made it impossible
for me to resist.” Another husband said, “She laughed at my jokes. She thought
I was hilarious, and that stroked my ego. It made me want to be with her.”
Maybe our Miss America contestant — mentioned earlier — made guys feel that she
was unapproachable — too good for them. Nobody wants to be rejected, so guys
generally won’t risk it. Men need to feel invited by your welcoming look and gestures.
In other words, being friendly is attractive to guys.
6. Wants to be a mother
She says it by the way she interacts with children. She
makes it clear that she’s looking forward to having kids of her own. She
actually says the words, “I want to be a mother.” Several men stated that this
quality was important to them because they wanted to be fathers someday. A man
can’t have a family without a wife who shares that same desire, so he finds
this an attractive trait.
As evidenced in these comments, all is enhanced by how a guy
feels about himself when he’s with you. When you help him feel good about
himself, he cannot help but be attracted to you. As you read what men are
looking for in women, pick one quality that you could improve upon and start working
on it. Step by step, you can become the attractive woman you’ve always wanted
to be.
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