Many people have different opinions
about long distance relationships. Such distance may help you, your partner and
your relationship grow for the better, or both of you end up going your
separate ways - it all depends on how you and your partner handle the distance
and the lack of physical contact.
That said, the extra distance does not
just give you loneliness and complication, in fact, it helps you realize that
the simple morning messages, the small gesture of holding each other’s hands
and spending time together whether outdoors or just lazing in the sofa are
precious moments, suggests Aaron from americantungsten.com.
Maintaining a long-distance
relationship is difficult, but having one has its surprises, too. Here are 4
ways to make your long-distance relationship work for you:
Communicate Regularly
Send each other messages - it doesn’t
have to be lengthy; it could be as simple as sending ‘good morning’ and ‘good
night’ messages every day. Send pictures, audio and video clips to each other
of anything you found to be interesting, or even the simplest of things.
Share posts and stalk each other in
social media to remain updated in each other’s life and to keep the fire
burning, have naughty phone calls or messages. Additionally, keep in mind that
the classic handwritten letters are still romantic despite the existence of
Skype and Facebook making it easier to connect with people.
However, too much communication can be
too possessive and at times annoying. Know your limits as both of you do not
have to communicate for a long period just to compensate for the distance.
Also, do not make assumptions about
some things your partner texted or have written to you. It is so easy to
misunderstand each other through messages, so it is safer to check and recheck
countless times to be sure what the other is really trying to convey.
Trust Each Other
Trust is the foundation of a
relationship that couples preserve, more so for long distance relationships. Of
course, trusting each other is not enough - you have to be honest with each
other, too.
Open up and talk about your fears,
insecurities, joys, jealousies, activities and other things so both of you
share the burden of facing these things. Set a clear agreement regarding what
should or should not be done and it should be honored.
Avoid doing things that you know will
displease your partner, so either tell them ahead of time about your plans and
reassure them, or don’t do it at all. This will naturally upset her as you are
placing your partner in a position where he/she feels powerless.
Continue To Do Things Together
Physical contact is not an option when
you are apart. Luckily, technology has made it possible for you to see your
partner in real time, or do things together without requiring the physical
presence of a person.
In this case, do some things you and
your partner have been doing before, like playing your favorite online game, or
watching YouTube videos at the same time. Call each other through Skype and
have a walk “together,” or sing a song to your partner. Just be creative enough
to think of some ways on doing things together.
Keep Each Other Updated
Update each other on the latest events
in your life, even the mundane things such as finally buying the pair of shoes
you’ve been saving up for, or attending that annual family reunion. In
addition, share the latest gossip you’ve heard about any of your family or
friends to keep your partner in the loop.
Know each other’s free time as well as
the time when they are busy, in order to avoid giving them a call at the wrong
time - the other may be in the middle of an important meeting, or is attending
to a client. It is essential to know when something significant will happen to
the other person, especially if you have different time zones.
Conclusion
A long-distance relationship will help
you realize the importance of spending time with each other. The time apart is
a means to reflect and to know yourself and your relationship better.
There may be complications along the
way, but trust, love, honesty, positivity, understanding and appreciation are the
keys to keep your relationship going even with the extra distance.
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